There’s a reason so many of us start over on a Monday.
Or on the first of the month. Or on a birthday, a new school year, the first warm day of spring. Something about a clean date makes a clean start feel possible, even if last week, last month or last year didn’t go the way we hoped.
If you’ve ever felt a little silly waiting for Monday to begin again, here’s some good news: there’s research behind that feeling. Psychologists call it the fresh start effect.
What the research found
In 2014, researchers Hengchen Dai, Katherine Milkman and Jason Riis at the Wharton School looked at when people actually go after their goals. They found that Google searches for the word “diet” climbed at the start of each week, each month and each new year, and right after holidays.
Gym visits followed the same pattern. University students were more likely to work out at the start of a new week, a new semester or right after their birthday.
The researchers called these dates temporal landmarks: moments on the calendar that stand out from ordinary days and mark the start of something new.
Why a new date feels like a new you
A year later, the same team ran a simple experiment. People wrote down a personal goal and picked a day to get a reminder email about it. For some, March 20 was described as “the first day of spring.” For others, it was described as an ordinary day. Same date, different name.
The people who heard “first day of spring” chose that date about three and a half times as often: 26% compared with 7%.
The researchers’ explanation is gentle and very human. We tend to file our old mistakes under a past version of ourselves. A landmark date draws a line between that past self and who we are now. It says: that was then, and this is a new chapter. And from a new chapter, starting feels a lot more doable.
The part we don’t talk about enough
Fresh starts help us begin. They don’t always help us keep going. Most of us know the pattern: a strong first week, one missed day, then the quiet feeling that we’ve already blown it, so why bother.
This is where self-compassion comes in. In a 2012 study, psychologists Juliana Breines and Serena Chen at UC Berkeley found that people who met their mistakes with kindness, instead of criticism, were more motivated to improve, not less. In one experiment, students who did poorly on a hard test and were then encouraged to be kind to themselves spent more time studying for the next one.
In other words, being gentle with yourself isn’t letting yourself off the hook. It’s what makes it possible to come back.
You don’t have to wait for Monday
Here’s the best part. The landmark doesn’t have to be on the calendar. In that spring study, nothing about the date changed except what it was called. That means you can name your own.
A fresh start can be:
- Tomorrow morning
- The first page of a new notebook
- The day after a hard week
- Right now, when you finish reading this
That’s why we say: Missed a day? Skip it. A missed day is data, not failure. Every blank page is its own small landmark.
Three ways to help a fresh start stick
A new chapter gives you the spark. These small habits help you carry it past the first week.
- Start smaller than you think you should. Choose one first step you could do even on a tired day. “Write one line before bed” is easier to come back to than “journal every night.”
- Make an if-then plan. Decide ahead of time when and where you’ll do it: “If it’s Sunday evening, then I’ll open my planner at the kitchen table.” Researchers Peter Gollwitzer and Paschal Sheeran reviewed close to 100 studies and found that plans like this made people noticeably more likely to follow through on their goals.
- Plan for the missed day now. Pick the words you’ll use when it happens, like “Skip it and start from here.” That way a missed day becomes a small pause, not the end of the story.
Try it: a fresh start on paper
Grab your journal and give yourself five quiet minutes with these prompts:
- What’s one thing from my last chapter that I’m ready to leave there?
- What did it teach me, even if it didn’t go the way I planned?
- If today were the first day of a new chapter, what would I call it?
- What’s one small first step I can take this week?
- When I miss a day (and I will), what do I want to say to myself?
If you’re starting over and want a little structure, The Focus Planner 2027 from The Intentional Era was made for exactly this. Each month opens with a 10-minute Monthly Reset, each week starts with your Top 3, and missed days are simply skipped, not made up. Or begin with the free digital Reset Journal when you join the TEY TRIBE.
Your next fresh start doesn’t have to wait for Monday. It can begin on this page. ♡
Sources
- Dai, H., Milkman, K. L., & Riis, J. (2014). The fresh start effect: Temporal landmarks motivate aspirational behavior. Management Science, 60(10), 2563–2582.
- Dai, H., Milkman, K. L., & Riis, J. (2015). Put your imperfections behind you: Temporal landmarks spur goal initiation when they signal new beginnings. Psychological Science, 26(12), 1927–1936.
- Breines, J. G., & Chen, S. (2012). Self-compassion increases self-improvement motivation. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 38(9), 1133–1143.
- Gollwitzer, P. M., & Sheeran, P. (2006). Implementation intentions and goal achievement: A meta-analysis of effects and processes. Advances in Experimental Social Psychology, 38, 69–119.
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